“How do I transform my life?”
If you’re asking this question, keep in mind that the one constant in our lives is change.
The more we fight it, the more difficult life gets.
Instead of avoiding it, consider how you may alter your lifestyle to accommodate the changes that are occurring around you.
We are surrounded by change, and it is the factor that has the most influence on our life.
It will find you, confront you, and compel you to re-evaluate how you spend your life.
Here are 3 life-changing practices to follow
Be a giver, not a taker: Helping others through service is one of the easiest and most rewarding ways to cultivate happiness. Remember to be respectful of the people you are helping and that their needs are what’s most important.
Contribute to a not-for-profit organization: Find a cause that you believe in, find something where you feel like your contribution will really matter, whether big or small!
Spend time with people who make you happy: We can’t do it all by ourselves so try and spend time with family, friends or colleagues who make you happy when they are around — because they will often have advice on how to make things better! And always remember to give back and contribute to not-for-profit organizations if you want your life to be extraordinary. And while giving back and contributing is absolutely necessary, happiness is equally as important. It can be hard to work out sometimes, but we need to find joy in simple things (family dinners!) and pursue positive experiences (try going skydiving!) that make us genuinely happy.
Learn Something New Every Day
Set an example for the people around you. Be someone who is kind, compassionate and brave. The more good you do in this world, the more love and light can be spread outwards from you to the people in your life.
The older we get, the less patience we have with ourselves as well as those around us. That needs to stop — improve your mental health by being compassionate towards yourself and others, having patience with challenges that come up along your journey of life and learning how to forgive.
Rediscover what makes you happy and excited about living each day. Knowledge is power: Seek knowledge every day, whether it’s through books or conversations with friends, family or strangers. Improve your mental health: Meditation has been shown to decrease stress levels, relieve pain and strengthen immune systems. There are so many kids out there who need a great role model in their lives. You might not think you’re doing anything special at all but the people around you will always remember the kindnesses they’ve seen from you and how much it meant to them- so make sure to always try your best!
Say Thank You More Often
One key takeaway from my session with neuropsychologist and psychoanalyst Dr. Mike Dow is gratitude journaling, a process of setting aside time every day to write down at least three things you’re grateful for that day. One can’t show appreciation unless one receives it, he said. It’s tough to see the benefits of gratitude if you don’t take the time to do some reflection and find out how better focus on what you already have. Thankfully, journaling about one’s feelings seems to have lasting effects on the brain as well; so set aside some time each day to slow down and spend some time thinking about what it is that we all need but don’t always recognize we possess until a loved one or something big goes missing: our ability to feel gratitude.
And when I say feel gratitude, I’m not just talking about writing down words. Philanthropy means giving back, which requires us to give up on toxic emotions like anger, sadness, shame and guilt in order to embrace those much more life-affirming ones. And again, just like spending time with loved ones strengthens relationships and reminds us of their importance in our lives — a simple thank you carries the same weight when it comes to reminding ourselves of what matters most in life — which is why I make sure to keep this gratitude journal by my bedside table.